Wow, it’s been a big one this week. (It’s Friday night as I type this) Sometimes in the real world of obligations & chores, you don’t have enough time to chat with people. Not that I am forgetting people. Not in the least! I am always aware that people have jobs and kids and pets and romantic partners.
Talking with people on the fetish site, I am running up against people wanting to talk to me nonstop, even though I have errands & meals to make & cat poop to pick up. Some are understanding, because they have daily lufes, too. They don’t take it personally.
Others are not as forgiving. Between being scolded as if I am nothing but a petulant child to being yelled at outright, it’s happening a lot this week. In fact I was ghosted twice because I wasn’t as speedy in my texting as they wished. Personally, that’s extreme. Especially when I told them outright that I was helping my family or whatever. I don’t appreciate folks being impatient with me, especially when I am doing EXACTLY what I said I was doing.
There’s a direct difference between acting like a Dom (dominant) in the bedroom and in real life. Nobody appreciates a Dom or anyone trying to shove themselves where they’re not needed. I don’t need to be belittled as a person because I am busy dealing with real life shit instead of texting sexy talk. I would rather prefer it be sexy talk. Sometimes it’s easier to deal with having sexy times than regular life and its assorted bullshit. I don’t know a person on Earth that would say “oh yes! real world pain and hassle instead of an orgasm. sign me up!”
I don’t like to be ghosted/ignored. I make every connection in good faith. I am honest and I don’t sugar coat stuff. Still polite, but firm. It’s their loss. If that’s how disposable I am, then it’s fine they removed themselves from the equation. I don’t allow disrespect in my own house. Does it still hurt some? Of course. Especially when I was nothing but honest in dealing with them. But honesty and trust is a 2 way street. It’s lopsided if it’s only one way. It’s just teaching me that some people just flake like a croissant. Am I a croissant? Oh hell no! I’m like a good meal. I stick with you and give you strength to get through life and day to day activities.
I am getting tired. Hoping for real sleep tonight. That would be most welcome. Saturday is a big event & that’s also my next blog post. See you then!
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