The learning curve experience.

I grew up Catholic and incredibly sheltered. (Very bad upbringing and we’ll leave it at that.) Sex was only for marriage and only the most vanilla was acceptable.

I made a profile at my boyfriend’s suggestion. Didn’t even know the website existed. Sure, I can watch some really strange porn when I am by myself, but that’s different from experiencing it first hand. Have I wanted to experience what I saw? Oh yes, definitely. I knew since I was 13 that I had some large kinks in my cable. So, my profile has been active for 5 days as of today’s writing.

First of all, there’s 2 types of approaches people have when communicating with me so far. Either it’s respectful, kind, honest and having patience with me trying to find my sea legs. Or it’s “Hey baby, wanna suck my dick?” as they try to send me pictures of their penises wiggling in the wind. Both approaches are absolutely legitimate, but it depends on the what you want. Personally, the “Hey baby” routine from a random person I don’t know from Adam is a large bit off-putting. If I know you either in real life or in the community, sure. The reason is that because these people haven’t crapped on my boundaries or made me feel uncomfortable. I know it’s lighthearted and I take it as such. When I acknowledge the message, that is how I establish their intents. If they want something more of an erotic experience, then you can say yes or no. If you are unable to chat with that person, you legitimately don’t have to. We all have day jobs and kids/pets/family, not to mention just not feeling it. Never force yourself to do anything. Make a promise to yourself that you will establish what your boundaries are and what you want to experience.